We rarely, if ever, see eye to eye. I drive her to the brink of insanity as she does me, and affection isn’t our thing unless we’ve both had one too many glasses of Tia Maria and coke. But when I look back, I remember just how much she has done for me.
From the age of 5 she has raised me by herself, working constantly to make ends meet without once letting on to me and my younger brother quite how stressed she was. She’s picked up the pieces for me more times than I care to imagine over the years, and she’s one of the few people who doesn’t judge me when I come out with corkers like ‘isn’t the equator a country?’.
It wasn’t until I became a mother myself that I realised just how amazing she was, not only is she an amazing mother, shes the most phenomenal nanny to my munchkins. I remember when Mia had colic, she cried for 3 hours every single evening for nearly 3 months straight. It wasn’t me that calmed her, it was mum. When Mia’s first Christmas came around it wasn’t me that made it magical, it was mum. Before Theo was diagnosed she didn’t once complain when she had him so we could sleep, often meaning she’d forgo sleep herself and be covered in projectile vomit. She absolutely dotes on my children, and they adore her in return.
The fact is, without my mum, I wouldn’t be here. I don’t say it often and I cringe whenever I do, but I love you Mum. Thank you. (Oh, and I’m sorry about the picture – I know when this goes live you’ll moan at me but whats a soppy post without a dodgy holiday snap?)
It seems I’m not alone in my realisation, Hannah Fleming (Hi Baby Blog) says ‘Oh my I cannot tell you how much my relationship with my Mum has changed! Firstly, I feel like she has a lot more respect for me and treats me more like and adult (usually haha) Secondly I have a lot more patience with her as I appreciate the sacrifices she made for me. We just get along so much better now because we have this little person in common and can put differences aside for her sake.’ and Chloe Ciliberto (Life Unexpected) also agrees, saying – ‘Having your own children, really puts the relationship with your mum into perspective. Since I’ve had my daughter, I have become closer to my mum. I have more of an understanding of her, the choices she’s made and why she does the things she does. I listen to her advice a lot more nowadays and am a lot more grateful of all of the things she’s done.’
Has your relationship with your mother changed since you became a mother yourself? Comment below!