I Didn’t Realise How Brilliant My Mum Was Until I Had Children Of My Own.


We rarely, if ever, see eye to eye. I drive her to the brink of insanity as she does me, and affection isn’t our thing unless we’ve both had one too many glasses of Tia Maria and coke. But when I look back, I remember just how much she has done for me.

From the age of 5 she has raised me by herself, working constantly to make ends meet without once letting on to me and my younger brother quite how stressed she was. She’s picked up the pieces for me more times than I care to imagine over the years, and she’s one of the few people who doesn’t judge me when I come out with corkers like ‘isn’t the equator a country?’.

It wasn’t until I became a mother myself that I realised just how amazing she was, not only is she an amazing mother, shes the most phenomenal nanny to my munchkins. I remember when Mia had colic, she cried for 3 hours every single evening for nearly 3 months straight. It wasn’t me that calmed her, it was mum. When Mia’s first Christmas came around it wasn’t me that made it magical, it was mum. Before Theo was diagnosed she didn’t once complain when she had him so we could sleep, often meaning she’d forgo sleep herself and be covered in projectile vomit. She absolutely dotes on my children, and they adore her in return.

The fact is, without my mum, I wouldn’t be here. I don’t say it often and I cringe whenever I do, but I love you Mum. Thank you. (Oh, and I’m sorry about the picture – I know when this goes live you’ll moan at me but whats a soppy post without a dodgy holiday snap?)

It seems I’m not alone in my realisation, Hannah Fleming (Hi Baby Blog) says ‘Oh my I cannot tell you how much my relationship with my Mum has changed! Firstly, I feel like she has a lot more respect for me and treats me more like and adult (usually haha) Secondly I have a lot more patience with her as I appreciate the sacrifices she made for me. We just get along so much better now because we have this little person in common and can put differences aside for her sake.’ and Chloe Ciliberto (Life Unexpected)  also agrees, saying – ‘Having your own children, really puts the relationship with your mum into perspective. Since I’ve had my daughter, I have become closer to my mum. I have more of an understanding of her, the choices she’s made and why she does the things she does. I listen to her advice a lot more nowadays and am a lot more grateful of all of the things she’s done.’

Has your relationship with your mother changed since you became a mother yourself? Comment below!

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  1. Chloe Ciliberto 3rd December 2016 / 8:38 pm

    Thank you so much for featuring me! Your mum sounds absolutely fabulous. You definitely do learn to appreciate all that they have had to put up with, when you have children of your own. She sounds like one pretty amazing Grandma too. You and your children are so lucky to have her! 😀 xxx

  2. Rach 6th December 2016 / 7:51 am

    This is so relatable. I fully appreciated my Mum that much more when I became a parent 3 years ago. It makes you realise what an amazing job your own mum does, the sacrifices she made etc. #eatsleepblogrt

  3. Lucy's Locket 8th December 2016 / 10:39 am

    I have a great relationship with my mum, but having my own children really makes me appreciate her more. Mums are amazing, aren’t they #EatSleepBlogRT

  4. Amy Stainthorpe 12th December 2016 / 8:06 am

    I genuinely didn’t realise how much my Mam did for us until I became one myself. It’s literally non stop, sorting school bags, uniforms, meals, homework, cuddles, bath times, bed times, washing, ironing, the list is endless. How on earth did I take her for granted for so many years?! Especially in my teens. I totally appreciate her now and the kids adore their Gran because she is always there for them too x

  5. Petite Pudding 14th December 2016 / 10:50 am

    I totally agree – my relationship with my mother has changed so much for the better sine the arrival of my kids. I really understand now all the things she went through and how hard at time being a mother can be! #eatsleepblogrt

  6. Jenni 18th December 2016 / 10:55 pm

    My relationship has definitely changed, I think you are seen more as an adult and you go for advice knowing you won’t be judged x #happydays

  7. Sian QuiteFranklySheSaid 23rd December 2016 / 10:06 pm

    Ah what a lovely post! My relationship with my mum changed too, but not for the better, it made me realise how terrible she was! Have a lovely Christmas and thank you for linking up to #HappyDaysLinky x

  8. Katy (What Katy Said) 2nd January 2017 / 8:44 pm

    I definitely feel sorry for how I was as a teenager and I know that I will probably go through the same thing with my girls. However, it has also shown me how flawed she was in many ways and I am a better parent for it. Thank you for joining in #HappyDaysLinky x

  9. Mummy Times Two 15th January 2017 / 9:59 am

    This is such a beautiful post. We all need to remember how much our mums have done and continue to do for us. You are right without them we would not be here. Cherishing mine is certainly something I need to do more often, like yours she brought us up on her own, sacrificing much of her happiness for hours. I hope my children look back on their childhoods with the same amount of joy that my mum created in mine. #PostsFromTheHeart

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