I read a lot online about co-sleeping. I’ve read posts from parents who think its completely wrong to share a bed with your child and plenty from those who promote it’s benefits.
My children are six and four and sometimes, we co-sleep. I don’t actively encourage them to sleep in my bed, but if they ask I don’t say no. If they need me close to them, how can I refuse?
Mia carries a lot of responsibility on her shoulders. She cares deeply for her brother and worries herself silly about him. When he is having a bad day, making him comfortable and calm is a priority which can mean she doesn’t get quite as much Mummy time as she’d like. On the night’s she climbs in beside me and snuggles into my side, I hold her close.
Theo often spends his days scratching away at his skin, clawing at it until he bleeds. On the day’s he is angry and irrational he will not settle unless he knows I am close.
In the midst of our hectic world, I cherish the night-times spent next to my children.
Last night Mia tossed and turned until 11pm, just the other side of the wall I laid awake listening and waiting. Before long she walked into my room, teddy in one hand, pillow in the other, she didn’t even need to say anything. ‘Go on then’, I said. And within minutes, she was asleep.
They won’t be young forever, and one day they’ll ease their anxieties in other ways. Until then my arm’s are wide open.
Some say co-sleeping is ‘less healthy’ than independent sleep. I’m fully aware of the opposing views and constructive advice given surrounding sharing a bed with children. But, I am a firm believer in doing what is right for you and your child.
I’m not ashamed of the fact my children sometimes share my bed with me, if anything, I’m proud.
I’m proud of myself for becoming the kind of mother who is a safe haven, for raising children who know exactly what they need and when they need it.
Whether you are for or against co-sleeping, tell me, if your child needed to be close to you, would you really say no?