Why Co-Sleeping Works For Us.

I read a lot online about co-sleeping. I’ve read posts from parents who think its completely wrong to share a bed with your child and plenty from those who promote it’s benefits.

My children are six and four and sometimes, we co-sleep. I don’t actively encourage them to sleep in my bed, but if they ask I don’t say no. If they need me close to them, how can I refuse?

Mia carries a lot of responsibility on her shoulders. She cares deeply for her brother and worries herself silly about him. When he is having a bad day, making him comfortable and calm is a priority which can mean she doesn’t get quite as much Mummy time as she’d like. On the night’s she climbs in beside me and snuggles into my side, I hold her close.

Theo often spends his days scratching away at his skin, clawing at it until he bleeds. On the day’s he is angry and irrational he will not settle unless he knows I am close.

In the midst of our hectic world, I cherish the night-times spent next to my children.

Last night Mia tossed and turned until 11pm, just the other side of the wall I laid awake listening and waiting. Before long she walked into my room, teddy in one hand, pillow in the other, she didn’t even need to say anything. ‘Go on then’, I said. And within minutes, she was asleep.

They won’t be young forever, and one day they’ll ease their anxieties in other ways. Until then my arm’s are wide open.

Some say co-sleeping is ‘less healthy’ than independent sleep. I’m fully aware of the opposing views and constructive advice given surrounding sharing a bed with children. But, I am a firm believer in doing what is right for you and your child.

I’m not ashamed of the fact my children sometimes share my bed with me, if anything, I’m proud.

I’m proud of myself for becoming the kind of mother who is a safe haven, for raising children who know exactly what they need and when they need it.

Whether you are for or against co-sleeping, tell me, if your child needed to be close to you, would you really say no?

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6 Comments

  1. Glutarama 10th June 2017 / 5:05 pm

    Amen to that, never turn a child away if they need me…both kids will have double beds soon so I can come to them if that’s easier. I actually find I get a better nights sleep knowing they’re close anyway!

  2. Amy @ Arty apple 12th June 2017 / 11:00 am

    Both of my children slept in with us and they are perfectly fine. At 5 and 7 they sleep beautifully and go to bed with zero fuss. I used to get much better sleep when I just let them sleep with us rather than being up and down all night. Amen to co sleeping!

  3. Louise 25th June 2017 / 10:02 am

    We also co-sleep regularly. My girls are 5 and 3 and my rule is that they start off the night in their own beds but if they wake and want to come into ours then that is fine. Occasionally we will move them back to their own beds if it all becomes too much of a squash but we mostly just go with it. I quite like the nighttime snuggles to be honest. There will come a stage when they will want their own space anyway – until then I’ll enjoy the fact that they want to be close to me. #sharingthebloglove

  4. Mrs Mummy Harris 25th June 2017 / 8:38 pm

    id love to co-sleep but unfortunately me and Ben are too much of fidgets to fit Hubby in the bed hahaha! Plus I worry I’d turn over and end up squashing Ben! #sharingthebloglove

  5. tobygoesbananas 25th June 2017 / 9:10 pm

    Gabe comes into our bed at some points most nights. He’s 22 months and still wakes at least once every night – I find we all get more sleep if he comes into our bed than if I try and settle him and get him back in his own. I can’t say I’m entirely happy about it – given the choice I’d rather he slept in his own bed, but that’s mostly because he somehow manages to take up 3/4 of a king size bed! Toby goes to sleep in our bed with one of us at the start of the night and then I move him to his own bed once he’s asleep. He usually sleeps all night but if he does wake up then usually one of us will go and sleep with him. I wouldn’t mind both of them in our bed really but there’s just not enough room! Do whatever works for you I reckon 🙂 #SharingTheBlogLove

  6. dearbearandbeany 28th June 2017 / 8:30 pm

    When Alice was a baby she used to scream if I took her anywhere near our bed. There were so many nights that all I wanted to do was get back into my bed and take her with me, but she hated it. Holly used to come into our bed when she was a baby and I was feeding her, but she was never asked to and now neither of mine do. If they wanted to, I wouldn’t say no. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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